Monday Mindset: Moving On
February 19th, 2018
Keep in mind that once we decide to cut ties with someone toxic, that just because we finally took this action, it doesn’t mean that the pain ends. The pain of recovery has just begun. Moving on is a process, it is not an event. It is harder to recover from someone who has been toxic to us or for us, than it is to move on from the ending of a healthy relationship. Rarely do we leave healthy relationships lost to our identity, confused, and emotionally destroyed. When we leave toxic ties we leave angry, without closure, depressed and feeling totally empty. It may take years to get fully over this type of abuse, especially if we endure hoovering after we leave them, where they do everything they can to stay vaguely in touch, as a way to keep us thinking about them and psychologically stuck to them. They hoover so we won’t move on to someone else. It’s best to cut ties black and white to keep our healing protected from their abusive and invasive ways. As long as we remain open to them in the hopes of finding some sense of closure, we cannot move on. When we cut ties with toxic people, it is as bad as any withdrawal from an addictive drug. Be loving, nonjudgmental and patient with yourself. Don’t worry about how many months it’s been if you’re still not over it. Just keep healing one day at a time. It will pass.
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Monday Mindset: Moving On
February 19th, 2018
Keep in mind that once we decide to cut ties with someone toxic, that just because we finally took this action, it doesn’t mean that the pain ends. The pain of recovery has just begun. Moving on is a process, it is not an event. It is harder to recover from someone who has been toxic to us or for us, than it is to move on from the ending of a healthy relationship. Rarely do we leave healthy relationships lost to our identity, confused, and emotionally destroyed. When we leave toxic ties we leave angry, without closure, depressed and feeling totally empty. It may take years to get fully over this type of abuse, especially if we endure hoovering after we leave them, where they do everything they can to stay vaguely in touch, as a way to keep us thinking about them and psychologically stuck to them. They hoover so we won’t move on to someone else. It’s best to cut ties black and white to keep our healing protected from their abusive and invasive ways. As long as we remain open to them in the hopes of finding some sense of closure, we cannot move on. When we cut ties with toxic people, it is as bad as any withdrawal from an addictive drug. Be loving, nonjudgmental and patient with yourself. Don’t worry about how many months it’s been if you’re still not over it. Just keep healing one day at a time. It will pass.
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Monday Mindset: Moving On
February 19th, 2018
Keep in mind that once we decide to cut ties with someone toxic, that just because we finally took this action, it doesn’t mean that the pain ends. The pain of recovery has just begun. Moving on is a process, it is not an event. It is harder to recover from someone who has been toxic to us or for us, than it is to move on from the ending of a healthy relationship. Rarely do we leave healthy relationships lost to our identity, confused, and emotionally destroyed. When we leave toxic ties we leave angry, without closure, depressed and feeling totally empty. It may take years to get fully over this type of abuse, especially if we endure hoovering after we leave them, where they do everything they can to stay vaguely in touch, as a way to keep us thinking about them and psychologically stuck to them. They hoover so we won’t move on to someone else. It’s best to cut ties black and white to keep our healing protected from their abusive and invasive ways. As long as we remain open to them in the hopes of finding some sense of closure, we cannot move on. When we cut ties with toxic people, it is as bad as any withdrawal from an addictive drug. Be loving, nonjudgmental and patient with yourself. Don’t worry about how many months it’s been if you’re still not over it. Just keep healing one day at a time. It will pass.
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