Stop Telling Toxic Family Members Your Business
February 20th, 2018
We tend to go to our toxic family members wanting to believe they are good. We naively tell them the most personal things about ourselves and the negative feelings we are having, believing we’re safe to do this because they’re our family. All that happens when we do this, is they either feign compassion and understanding only to use what we tell them against at a later time, or they take what we’re sharing and make it all about them and their pain. When something bad happens to us, it may appear that they want to help, but ultimately they’re negative people who thrive off of being involved in anything that is negative. They realize we are vulnerable and feeling down, and they use this as an opportunity to exploit us, take control and tell us what do. We have to learn that this isn’t healthy love. Healthy love listens, it doesn’t control. Healthy love is safe, not exploitative. Our toxic family members cannot help us, so we need to find other trusted people we can talk to without fear.
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Stop Telling Toxic Family Members Your Business
February 20th, 2018
We tend to go to our toxic family members wanting to believe they are good. We naively tell them the most personal things about ourselves and the negative feelings we are having, believing we’re safe to do this because they’re our family. All that happens when we do this, is they either feign compassion and understanding only to use what we tell them against at a later time, or they take what we’re sharing and make it all about them and their pain. When something bad happens to us, it may appear that they want to help, but ultimately they’re negative people who thrive off of being involved in anything that is negative. They realize we are vulnerable and feeling down, and they use this as an opportunity to exploit us, take control and tell us what do. We have to learn that this isn’t healthy love. Healthy love listens, it doesn’t control. Healthy love is safe, not exploitative. Our toxic family members cannot help us, so we need to find other trusted people we can talk to without fear.
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Stop Telling Toxic Family Members Your Business
February 20th, 2018
We tend to go to our toxic family members wanting to believe they are good. We naively tell them the most personal things about ourselves and the negative feelings we are having, believing we’re safe to do this because they’re our family. All that happens when we do this, is they either feign compassion and understanding only to use what we tell them against at a later time, or they take what we’re sharing and make it all about them and their pain. When something bad happens to us, it may appear that they want to help, but ultimately they’re negative people who thrive off of being involved in anything that is negative. They realize we are vulnerable and feeling down, and they use this as an opportunity to exploit us, take control and tell us what do. We have to learn that this isn’t healthy love. Healthy love listens, it doesn’t control. Healthy love is safe, not exploitative. Our toxic family members cannot help us, so we need to find other trusted people we can talk to without fear.
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